Tips for how to speak, think, and act like a Sugar Mom….
1. Who we used to be
Remember the woman who “hooked” your mate? She was full of self-confidence and sass, because she knew what she wanted. There are a few people that would surely benefit if she reappeared in your life. You, your spouse/mate and family. There’s nothing that is more appealing than a woman who can hold the reigns and direct with a wink!
From the questions I ask you, and the answers you divulge,… we’ll bring her back- you have my word.
2. Who we want to be
After remembering who we were, and picking and choosing what the good parts were, which is not an easy task- it’s like taking a good strong look in the mirror… but now we can incorporate other things into who you are, like a role model, a new hobby that you may like to take to the next level, beyond “Hobby.” Sometimes it’s too confusing to view yourself with scrutiny and justice. I’m here to bridge that gap! I’m very good at seeing what works- what has potential- and the, “ya gotta’ be kiddin’ me” stage! I’m very serious about this. We all find it easier to view and fix someone else’s life, isn’t that true? Here’s where I can offer the help in a gentle way to get you rollin’ to the “New You!”
3. Sex- should we be afraid of it or should we embrace it, and for that matter, Which Parts??
We fall into routines and it’s not unusual for people that have been together for what feels like forever to get stuck in sexual ruts. Jobs, kids, after school activities, etc…do you remember the magic that made you rush home to be together? The way you learned each from every angle of sexual delight? We can find that again, it’s like riding a bike! It doesn’t disappear, it’s just waiting for someone to bring it back to your heightened standards. We both know my team is not exactly normal- but we’re enough to offer the ultimate “getting you back to where you belong” position of sexual comfort, IF you want to.
4. Your partner- are they REALLY the right person for you?
It may be a huge challenge for you to admit this is the wrong partner even though logic prevails. They may have the money and the know-how to make your life more secure, but take a minute and think: is this the happiness you’ve been looking for? Is this love or lust or are you settling for what’s right.
Maybe they’re not even bringing their end to the table; not supporting you the way you thought they would, financially or emotionally. What’s keeping you home if this is the case? Could it be what most people fear? CHANGE? In no matter what type of circumstance, a change is more than worthwhile! It keeps things fresh and it allows you to grow. Let’s talk about what kind of steps you need to take, no matter what the status of your current relationship is, to make changes that keep YOU interested and interesting!
5. Your dreams
If there’s only one thing in this whole world I can help you with, it would be to make sure you never lose sight of the fact that you are not only entitled to your dreams, but you deserve to live at least one of them- at a time! If they’re attainable (by my standards) and we know how “outside the box” I am, then we will pick and choose the right dream of yours, to bring to life! You must give ma a “pinkie swear” up front, that you will listen- and follow my directions. I’ll make it happen.
6. Your kids
Such a broad subject. How many times a day do you think to yourself, “I would give my life for this child,” and then before the big hand sweeps from :05 to :10 you think, “I’m gonna’ kill em!”
Oh trust me!!! This is an every hour occasion that some of us will admit to and some won’t. The one thing I want to hit on is, somehow within our last two generations, we’ve put more emphasis on our children, making them the nucleus of our family relationships. This is WRONG. The nucleus is the married couple. All should revolve around THEM. If the marriage is intact and happy, so then will the kids be! It’s just turning counter-clockwise and feeling that pressure of what you’re unused to for maybe a 24 hour period…. or two! Once you and your mate realize that you’ve been letting the kids rule the roost you, and you switch it up – the kids will offer opposition at first, but then they’l feel less pressure! The fighting will lighten up in the house because kids weren’t meant to make the daily decisions- YOU were. A changing of the guard will allow you and your mate to regain a lot of the strength that’s been zapped out of you by these little aliens that have an endless need for attention. Let’s limit the extra-curricular after school activities, for instance, unless you enjoy spending your lives in a minivan, picking up the neighborhood to get from sports to dance and all other “MOM! EVERYONE is doing this, I Need to DO this too,” activities! Bring back the word “NO.” You’ll be amazed how secretly, everyone is really waiting to hear it and are thrilled that they can blame mom and dad!
It happens at all ages in fact it’s hit every generation I can remember, including way back to Adam and Eve. I think one of them was coerced to bight into that apple by a snake?
Here’s the really scary part though… you and your child can be bullied by a different set of people at the same times in your lives. You are each capable of living this nightmare vicariously through each other’s horror stories.
This is a subject that has nothing to do with seduction, sexuality, or being sensuous. I’m straying far from the core of what this program I’m offering, is really supposed to be addressing because it’s something I’ve had a lot of experience with through my parents, my own life and my kids lives. It’s my own personal mission to help the world to stop the bullying, one person at a time. I’m selfishly using this website to spread my beliefs on how to make a difference. Indulge me. I have very strong opinions on this one, and you’ll want to take them home to your kids.
* Coworkers bully coworkers
* Bosses bully employees
* Kids bully other kids
* Parents bully their kids
* Kids bully their parents
* Teachers bully their students
* Husbands and wives bully each other
It’s never ending until you begin to do what I suggest you do in this part of Moxie University. It takes Moxie to do it- and don’t you worry- I’ll make a believer out of you with this one. It’s too important to me, not to.
8. Let’s get seductive!
I’m going to walk you through the things we reach in and pull out of you from “yesterday-ville” and at the same time show you the most simplistic ways to get him rewrapped tightly around your little finger. He’ll never know what hit him- because he’ll be too busy wondering if you were like this when he married you and he’ll be thinking, “OMG- it’s my fault that I haven’t spent enough time with her to notice that she does this stuff!” When in fact, it’s both of your faults- you forgot or got too busy to remember you DO know this stuff, …my suggestion is to let him think it’s his fault for now! We’ll be fixing you while he’s feeling a bit guilty, so you’ll have him where you want him right out of the box! By the time we’re done with the “Seduction conversation in Moxie U, both of your heads will be spinning. This one is dangerous though because it can show a couple of things: One. You can do it, and you’ll enjoy it! Two. He’ll LOVE it, and you’ll love the fact that he does! 3. You’ll realize you just don’t have it in you to do it, but you’ll understand that, that’s not entirely the case: you just wont’ have it in you to do it for THAT partner. That leads to the next course in Moxie U. 4. You’ll pull it off like it’s a second skin and he won’t appreciate it or pay attention to it. This is another unfortunate piece of collateral damage that you’ll both have to face up to.
We’ll learn how to strip tease, talk dirty without the dirt, how to cross and uncross our legs, how to enter a room and leave, how to make him feel that he’s the only one in the room, what to wear including makeup and hair makeovers. We will make you the best you can be. We will find the “sweet spot” that has your name on it. This means we’ll not make you uncomfortable in trying to be something you aren’t; Only what you ARE.
Lastly- we will learn how to say and mean two very defining words. We’re grown up women and we deserve the right to be happy and respected. I’m sure I’m not the first attempt you’ve made to try and fix what’s broken within your marriage, and the methods of which I’m offering to help aren’t exactly conventional. At some point after you’ve gone that conventional route of fixing, which may or may not have included counseling, and after you give yourself credit for taking my courses of choice through Moxie University, if you still receive rejection and or indifference from your partner, you’ll have reached the pinnacle in your life that includes logic, emotion, change and the realization that you just may not want to spend the next half of your life in this way anymore. If you reach what I call that “defining moment,” you will reach inside and use your newly found Moxie to utter the words, “I’m Done.” If you say them- understand they’re sort of a non-religious uttering, but the closest thing to your own inner peace that you’ll ever let escape your lips. For you to get this far, you have to know they are liberating words, not word of morose. Never look back from that moment on, at “what could have been, should have been or even question why. You will feel like you’re filled with helium in spite of your dread, you’ll have trouble keeping your feel on the ground and an unexpected grin off of your face. No kidding, I’ve been there and was shocked at my own feelings!
When you reach that point, you are no longer hurting those around you, you are liberating them as well as yourself by accepting the fact that things are not going to change, the pressure is off of all of you! It becomes a blessing, not the everyday nightmare you’ve all been living.
This is when we take up the last conversation and make sure we have you headed in the right direction for YOU. It now becomes the first day of the rest of your life. We break out the old fashioned paper and pen and start making lists of things you want to be, things you want for your kids, places you want to see, job enhancements, new looks, all the things you’ve been dreaming about but just not ready to fulfill until this moment.
If we fix your life without having to get to this point, I’m honored to have been able to help you, as just one woman to another. No, I’m not a doctor and I always say, “I’m just a woman that feels, if I can help One Woman to make a positive change in her life by something I’ve written, said or done, then to me, it was well worth the journey together!”
If you did try all, and wind up at this “I’m Done” stage, you won’t go it alone. I’ll always be here to help. You’ll know when you’re ready to let go and start running! It’ll be a blessing to see!